MENTAL STRENGTH – A PRICELESS POSSESSION

 

 

Cristiano Ronaldo has all the silverwares in his cupboard except the FIFA World Cup and even though he is 41 he is back to give it a last try. His contemporary and the Argentine superstar Lionel Messi is 39, has won the last World Cup, has battled several injuries, but is back again for one more time. Vaibhav Suryavanshi, the 15 years old boy wonder from Bihar, blazed the recently concluded IPL with mind boggling strike rate and an all time record number of sixes against the best bowlers of the world. What do all these three have in common? They have enormous mental strength. It is not that they don’t fail, they treat their failure as yet another stepping stone towards success, a success that never satisfies them. Despite physical pain and hardship they return to practice and to their big game because of their mental strength.

 

Mental toughness or emotional resilience, is the capacity to handle life’s pressures, setbacks, and challenges effectively while maintaining wellbeing and pursuing goals. In moments of weakness and crisis, after our body has exhausted all its forces, the only thing we have left that can give us the last push we need is our mental strength. We all have mental power at some level or another, and the question is not just how strong it is in general, but how powerful it is in relation to our goals. A person who tries to lose weight and doesn’t give up for a long time is a person of great mental strength. Who doesn’t like to sleep an extra hour in the morning, but to force oneself out of bed and go out for a morning run needs mental strength.

 

The reverse is far more common. So many people try to lose weight and stop or give up after a few months with excuses, although they have not yet reached their goal, These people suffers from weak mental strength. Mental strength is like a muscle that can be trained and strengthened.

Let us see how:

 

1. Be honest with yourself

One in every 4 calories we put into our body is designed to give energy to the brain. When we lie, whether for ourself or for others, some of the brain must remember the truth, while other parts must remember the lie. In order to keep these two memories, we have to feed our brain with 2 times the calories to provide the energy needed for the double action. If we are honest with ourself 100% of the time, we will be less concerned and our brain can operate more efficiently and calmly, which will help improve our mental strength at the moments we need it.

 

2. Think of others more than yourself

Tony Robbins, a writer and personal consultant who has written two books on psychology and self-help, claims that in order to succeed, you have to serve as many people as possible. Someone who is mentally strong always tries to help solve other’s problems and seeks ways to make life easier for others. The best example is our Prime Minister, Narendra Modi. At 75 he can work tirelessly with just four hours of sleep because he is working for others, for his country and his party. If you want to be mentally stronger, think less of yourself and see how you can use your knowledge and abilities to help others. Once you understand that you are not at the center of the universe and that you can help others feel that they are, the mental strength and success will come on their own.

 

3. Read books

This unfortunately is a trend we are losing. Social media has reduced our attention span. Reading books is a priceless habit because we live only once, and in one lifetime we can accumulate only that much of experience. However, when we read a book, we are sucked into the lives of others for several days, weeks, or months, and we experience it together with them knowing that in the end all with be resolved. We return to our lives after learning from their mistakes and experiences, and of course a little about ourselves, and that's how we get stronger with each book we read.

 

4. Cultivate healthy relationships

Around every successful person, there are a number of close friends who make them who they are. In fact, many of the most successful billionaires, outstanding athletes, great scientists and talented artists in the world claim that each of us is the average of the five people with whom we spend most of our time. Every successful person in the world surrounds themselves with people who love them, support them, and help him think of and come up with ideas. Surround yourself with the right people who will build you up and not tear you down. Befriend people smarter than you, and develop your own circle of genius around you. They will add to your mental strength.

 

5. Be curious

The only way to learn how things work is through curiosity and asking questions. We are born curious, we broke the radio in childhood to see who was speaking from inside. But, while growing up we lost that curiousness. We were disciplined to conform to a ‘good boy/girl’ type. Now, at this stage of life, find people who inspire your curiosity and from whom you’d like to learn the most. The dumber you think your question is, the faster you need to ask it. There is no stupid question in a field you aren’t familiar with and people with knowledge in the same field will be happy to share it with you. If you are ashamed to ask a question, challenge yourself to ask 2 questions. Shy people don’t make much progress in life and the only reason is that they prevent it from themselves. Curiosity is like an appetite, and you have to feed it as long as it is hungry so you can get the nutrients that your brain needs to get stronger.

 

6. Take care of your health

The type of food we eat also affects the brain's activity and our mental strength. It is hard to be strong and creative and to carry out our ideas when we are ill in bed, or even when our bodies prefer to lie on the couch than to run. You don’t have to lift weights and build muscle to feel healthy, sticking to a healthy diet is enough. Walking at least half an hour every day and 8 hours of sleep each night will allow your brain to work best.

 

7. Learn and repeat what you have learned

Many studies show that students in schools and universities forget almost everything they heard during a lecture 45 minutes after leaving the classroom. To keep information that has just entered your mind for the first time, it is strongly recommended that you write it down or use it in conversation during the hour after the lesson has finished. The next day, repeat the material learned through conversation, so you can make sure it stays in your head for a long time. The best way to instill new knowledge in your mind is to teach it to someone else, so it is strongly recommended that you share with others what you learn. This is something which we practiced in our residency days in King George’s Medical College, and the stuff I taught as a resident to my juniors, is still fresh in my mind.

 

8. Don’t limit yourself

People with mental strength give themselves permission to do things that they haven’t tried before and experience new things. In addition, they give themselves permission to come up with bad ideas, take risks, slip and fall and try again. If you don’t give yourself permission to re-create your world, no one else will give it to you, and it will limit you to the world you know, which will prevent growth and progress toward new things that will improve your quality of life and give you personal satisfaction from what you have achieved in life. Impossible can be made possible only by trying, modifying, and trying again but differently.

 

9. “Ideas” are priceless, keep them coming  

Today, the strongest "currency" in the global economy is ideas. In order to profit from ideas, one must first come up with them, and it is recommended that they be good. To improve your ability to come up with good ideas that will help you fulfill your ambitions, adopt a practice where you write 10 ideas a day on a variety of topics on a piece of paper. It works just like weight lifting - at first, it’ll be difficult, but over time your "muscle of ideas" will grow and strengthen. In the end, you’ll find that you have an almost supernatural ability to come up with a creative solution to any problem that life throws at you. Taking the beaten track is easy, but it cannot lead to a new place. To discover the new, you need a new idea.

 

10. Be present in the moment

Whenever you feel remorse about the past, or you are anxious about the future, you create a journey in time that takes you from the moment you are in and puts you somewhere else that has already passed or has not yet arrived and doesn’t exist. People with mental strength, who find themselves conducting such a journey in time, do so to learn from past mistakes, and plan for future success. Instead of messing with their troubles, which they can’t solve, they think about how they can help others solve their troubles. Miraculously, when this is done, life becomes less stressed, and the success and motivation we achieve in this way usually leads to other successes that guide the future to where we want to go.

 

 

Mental strength is like a muscle - we have to train it to strengthen it so we can use it during the difficult moments when we need it most. With mental strength we can overcome all our fears and all the moments when we feel we want to give up, throw up our hands and settle for what we’ve achieved so far, which usually isn’t the ultimate goal.

 

FLORENCE – WHERE RENAISSANCE BLOSSOMED

 

Whether you think of yourself as a lover of art, culture, history, or just a worldly person, and you simply love Italy's inexhaustible charm and want to experience it in all its greatness - you must visit Florence! One of the most beautiful and well-known cities in Italy, the capital of the wonderful Tuscany region, which has produced some of the most important personalities and artists in human history and gave birth to the Renaissance culture that changed the world, is simply a gem of grace that includes endless treasures for every tourist and traveler. Let me share with you some of the main attractions, sights, and destinations in Florence, which you will undoubtedly want to see when you visit this great city.

 

1. Ponte Vecchio  

Ponte Vecchio

  The Ponte Vecchio (the old bridge) is one of the most iconic and known spots of Florence, as well as one of the first stops to which every tourist comes and visits in the city. This bridge, built by the Romans in 1117 over the Arno River which connects the two parts of the city together, is especially famous for the buildings above it, which continue the city over the waterline of the river and create a beautiful view that characterizes Florence, when at night the bridge lights sparkle on the surface of the river water and spectacular view only intensifies. The bridge area itself is known for the many jewelry shops surrounding it.

 

2. Uffizi Gallery

Uffizi Gallery

In Florence, it’s impossible to talk about art - the field that is so identified with this city - without mentioning the Uffizi Gallery - one of the largest and most important art museums in the world. Built in the 16th century and first used as a government building for the famous Medici dynasty, the gallery building has become a respected museum, one of the city's most prominent attractions. Here you’ll be able to see some of the most famous works of great artists such as Da Vinci, Botticelli, Michelangelo, Raphael and more. If you click on this hyperlink, you will know a lot about Uffizi Gallery Tours

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3. Boboli Gardens

The green lush gardens in the center of Florence, the well-kept and beautiful Boboli Gardens, are directly connected to the city's glorious heritage. The gardens behind the Pitti Palace (another site in the city we recommend you visit) were founded by the extensive Medici dynasty that once ruled here, and includes all the classic Italian-style design features we so love. The gardens are full of Renaissance-style sculptures, impressive fountains and green lawns, loved by all the city's residents and you will undoubtedly enjoy your time spent here.

 

4. Mercato Centrale

This is a vibrant bustling central market. In this two-story covered market, also known as the San Lorenzo Market, you’ll find the best of Italian produce known for its quality. On the second floor, you can enjoy a variety of small restaurants, cafés, and food stalls, where you can enjoy delicious local Italian delicacies, many of which are famous all over the world.

David in Galleria dell' Accamedia

 

5. Piazzale Michelangelo

To get the best view of all the beauty that is hidden in Florence, you need to get to Piazzale Michelangelo, one of the city's main squares, located on a small hill on the southern bank of the River Arno and also one of Florence's most beautiful and beloved observation points. From here you can view the entire city, with its impressive buildings, as well as sit with the statues of the great artist Michelangelo in one of the cafes spread out here and enjoy the breathtaking views of Florence.

 

6. Santa Croce Church

Santa Corche Basilica

Your visit to Florence won’t be complete if you miss the impressive structure of the Santa Croce Basilica, which is no longer just a beautiful church - but rather the "Temple of Italian Glory," as the locals call it. It is one of the largest Franciscan churches in the world, serving as the resting place of some of the greatest figures of human history, such as pioneering scientist Galileo Galilei, artist Michelangelo, and composer Joaco Rossini. Here, you’ll also be able to take in countless classical works of art - paintings, sculptures, and frescoes - made by the great artists who grew up in this city and its surrounding areas.

 

7. Galleria dell'Accademia

Galleria dell' Accademia

The Art Academy of Florence is first and foremost the home of one of the world's most famous sculptures - Michelangelo's original David statue. This iconic statue, which is 5.17 meters high, is a good reason to visit this important museum, along with millions who come here every year to admire it, although of course, it isn’t the only thing here. Many more works of art from the 15th and 16th centuries are enclosed in the walls of this prestigious institution, which was founded in 1561 and was the first academy to teach painting in Europe. If you click on this hyperlink you can explore Accademia & Michelangelo's David Tours https://thetourguy.com...​

 

8. Palazzo Vecchio

Many years of history, art and a lot of strength and power resonate between the rooms of one of the most unique structures in Florence, which was once the residence of the rulers and kings of Florence, and now functions as a particularly magnificent museum. This magnificent palace, built during the 12th century, was designed and decorated by the best of the city's artists, who were financed by the extensive Medici dynasty that ruled the city and lived there. There are many frescoes, sculptures, ornate ceilings, intricate carvings and large wall tiles, all of which describe historical and biblical events.

Plazzo Vecchio on Piazza Della Signoria

 

9. Piazza Della Signoria

The Signoria Square is a spacious square is also full of magnificent statues, including a marble replica of the David statue and the Neptune fountain. Next, to the square, you’ll find Liga de Lancy - an impressive and open architectural structure with more classic works of art.

 

10. Villa il Palmerino

You can go out to breathe some Tuscan mountain air in the pastoral Villa Il Palmerino, located in the northern sculpted hills of the city. Here too you can find cultural offerings, since the venue hosts events such as concerts and lectures, but apart from them you can also enjoy an exotic, flowery English style garden and a small restaurant that serves local food made using fresh ingredients grown in the place’s very own vegetable garden.

 

11. Piazza Santo Spirito

If you move to the other side of the Arno River you can reach the bohemian Piazza Santo Spirito, which houses an authentic street market as well as a host of small bars and restaurants packed with local Florentines. This can be a good opportunity for you to get to know the city's contemporary culture and to taste the modern cosmopolitan atmosphere in Florence.

Cattedrale di Santa Maria del Fiore

12. Cattedrale di Santa Maria del Fiore  

Just as it is impossible to envision Florence’s skyline without the beautiful and incredible large dome at the top of this magnificent building, it is impossible to describe a visit and a stroll in the city without reaching its famous main cathedral and the large square next to it. The exterior is decorated with red, green and white marble, through the entrance hall and its interior, decorated with dozens of works of art, stained glass, mosaics and of course statues, to its tall bell tower. Your welcome to climb the bell tower (if you’re in good shape) and take in the breathtaking view at its top - you are no doubt going to be moved by this place to the depths of your soul.

Paintings in the dome of the Cathedral

Florence, known as the cradle of the Renaissance, stands as one of the most influential cities in Italian and European history. Its significance extends far beyond art and culture, encompassing economics, politics, architecture, and philosophy. From the Middle Ages through the modern era, Florence shaped the course of Italian history, serving as a model of excellence that continues to illuminate cultural and intellectual life worldwide.

 

Between the 14th and 16th centuries, Florence became a cultural laboratory of Europe, attracting artists, architects, philosophers, and scientists. The patronage of noble families, especially the Medici, provided the ideal conditions for groundbreaking artistic achievements. Florentine art was not merely decorative; it was a symbol of political prestige, technical innovation, and spirituality. Every building, fresco, or sculpture reflected a city determined to be a European protagonist. The dome of Brunelleschi’s Santa Maria del Fiore, Michelangelo’s sculptures, and the frescoes of Leonardo da Vinci exemplify Florence’s unparalleled creative capacity.

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Florence is Italy’s greatest village—a place where Renaissance art meets small-town charm. 

 

GAYETRI MANTRA – CALMS THE MIND AND CLEARS THE ILLUSIONS

 

I was 11 years old when my parents arranged my ‘Upanayana’ or the sacred thread ceremony. My head was shaved and my Guru, who was also my Jathamoni (my father’s elder brother), gave me the Gayetri mantra and explained it to me in great details.

Om Bhur Bhuvah Svah
Tat Savitur Varenyam
Bhargo Devasya Dheemahi
Dhiyo Yo Nah Prachodayat

I was first told about the word meaning of every word –

 

·         Om: The universal sound representing supreme consciousness.

·         Bhur: The physical realm (earth).

·         Bhuvah: The mental or atmospheric realm.

·         Svah: The spiritual or celestial realm.

·         Tat: That (referring to the Supreme Being).

·         Savitur: The divine light or Sun God.

·         Varenyam: Worthy of worship.

·         Bhargo: Divine radiance or spiritual illumination.

·         Devasya: Of the divine.

·         Dheemahi: We meditate upon.

·         Dhiyo: Intellect or understanding.

·         Yo: Who.

·         Nah: Our.

·         Prachodayat: May inspire or guide 

And then it was all summed up for me thus - We meditate on the divine light of the Supreme Being, who creates and sustains all worlds. May that light illuminate and guide our intellect.

 

I was told that this mantra is a meditative practice that aligns the practitioner with universal consciousness and recitation purifies the mind, enhances focus, and fosters inner clarity. By invoking the divine light, it helps awaken higher consciousness, dispel ignorance, and cultivate wisdom and self-realization. I knew all along that this is our Dharma, but there is no English equivalent of this word, and certainly not 'religion'.

 

As an 11 year old kid, though it left me overwhelmed, it did not sink in then. But today, when I look back, in the autumn of my life all that the mantra offers makes a lot of sense. There are many illusions in life, which we often consider real. Illusions of all kinds give us pause, either to look at them and understand them or in order to protect ourselves against something unfamiliar or intimidating. However, illusions are not just visible, but they exist in our psyche, and like optical illusions, they can cause our brain to become confused, to stop, and to avoid taking action until they dissipate. The illusions of life will never fade until you understand them and are able to see beyond them. We humans often use illusions as "excuses." It is highly recommended that you see the truth that awaits you beyond them. Let us delve into a few life’s choicest illusions:

 

1. The feeling of not having enough time to do the things you want to do

This illusion is one of the greatest because it makes us believe that eventually we'll have time later in life. The reason this is an illusion is because time is relative, having one free hour a day can seem as though one has no time to do anything, but to someone else, it can be seen as time to devote to what is important to them. Therefore, the secret is simply to understand what is important to you and what is not, and to put it into your daily routine instead of things that are not important, such as idly watching television or browsing social networks. 

 

2. Trying to take shortcuts in life

Although it is possible to take shortcuts while walking, when it comes to life this concept does not exist, at least not if you plan on experiencing a happy and productive life. Every goal in life has several milestones leading to it, and only if you pass through each of them will your life go as planned. Try to enjoy the journey to your goal and all of your small achievements, rather than seeing them as wastes of time. In fact, they make reaching your goal all the more satisfying. Taking the longer route will allow you to grow, improve, and develop enough to reach your goal in the best way possible.

 

3. Thinking that you have control over life

It may frighten you to hear that you have no control over anything in your life apart from your thoughts, but those thoughts will also make you look at things in a positive or negative way. Think of it this way: Your smartphone has access to the Internet, but it does not control the entire network and you can only see and respond to the information in the virtual space – similarly, your existence takes place mainly within your head, and everything that happens around you is not under your control. You can control what you are looking for in real space and how you respond to what you see, but not what happens at any moment. Your responses are within your control, that too if you do not lose your head in rage or fear or excitement, the stimuli to excite your respone was never under your control.

 

4. Waiting for happiness from an external factor

Your existence takes place primarily in your mind, and everything that changes in your feelings is due to your reaction to what is happening around you. However, many people hope that something will happen in the outside world that will affect their inner feelings for the better, but that is not how happiness works. You may be temporarily happy and even ecstatic if you win the lottery, but if you don’t know how to manage your feelings properly, the large sum of money can also be a heavy burden which will be a source of suffering - suddenly you’ll fear being robbed or losing all the money. So, each situation can bring with it positive and negative thoughts, and you must simply decide that you want to be happy in order to be happy - it will come with time as long as you decide that you want IT, and not something that will bring it. You have to choose to be happy, other people can please you from time to time but they can’t force happiness in you.

 

5. Attempting to control other people

The human psyche is often afraid of any kind of change since a regular routine keeps us confident that bad things won’t happen to us, even if our situation is not positive – if we’ve been able to manage so far, we’ll probably be able to manage going forward. So when you try to change other people who have become unconsciously accustomed to a particular behavior or routine, you can expect some resistance on their part. They may know that they have to change, but it is mentally difficult for them to even begin thinking about the process. Moreover, the change you try to apply to another person probably applies to your values, but not necessarily to their values, so you must understand that you can’t change other people, but you can change the way you see them. If you understand their motives and have open conversations about things that bother you, you can change your perspective, and you will also see a change in others without them actually changing - the real change has taken place in you.

 

6. Waiting for a source of inspiration or energy

You may want to do something but you are waiting for the right moment, for example being inspired to write or motivated to exercise. Ironically, waiting for an external source of inspiration or motivation creates a vicious cycle that never ends, where those external elements are reluctant to arrive because they come only through an action that begins with you! The process of writing itself is what inspires the writer, and exercising is what provides motivation. If you’ve done these things in the past you probably already know the feelings that come with them, sitting five minutes in front of a writing page stretches over hours and exhausting exercise makes you more alert and energetic. Do not wait for an external source to arrive, because it won’t. Remember that the change in the way you feel begins only within you.

 

7. Believing that failure is a final and undesirable stage

Failure only exists if you want to achieve something and can’t achieve it, but its definition depends only on how we relate to it. Failure is not necessarily a bad thing, rather, it’s like a dead end in the maze- if you navigate a maze and hit a lot of dead ends, you’ll eventually start to map it out and understand where you stand and how to get out. Therefore, every failure you experience tells you about a stage or something in your path that is not right, so you have to take a step back and correct it. Life itself is a big maze, and our failures can hurt our sense of success, but they help us reach it as long as we learn from them.

 

8. Feeling that you are not good enough to succeed

This is the basis of all our fears. We fear our death because we do not know whether we will be satisfied with our lives when that moment comes, and also the death of our loved ones, because of fear that we won’t be able to cope with this situation. These are extreme examples of the fundamental fears that exist in every person's life, but this also happens with any other fear, and there is a little test that can help you know whether you’ll be able to deal with a situation well or not: Just ask yourself if you are already in a situation that you think you can’t handle – if the answer is yes, then that means you can get through it. You’ll never need to carry more than you can hold because you already carry the heavy sense of fear, and if you want to relieve yourself, give up that fear. You may need to lean on others sometimes, but your friends and family are part of the toolbox that makes you capable of dealing with everything in the right way.

So, back to the Gayetri Mantra, it is a prayer for illumination, guidance, and spiritual awakening, connecting the practitioner to the divine light that sustains all life and consciousness. It helps us to see clearly through the illusions and ambiguities of life. It calms the mind, reduces the stress, purifies the aura, enhances our concentration and memory, and attracts harmony in life. If life is throwing googlies at you only a calm and collected mind will help you to play it correctly and Gayetri Mantra brings that calm.

This blog is dedicated to the memory of my dear friend, Dr. Sunil Saxena

WHY THE GUTTER LANGUAGE?

 

 

Young people at the recent Jantar Mantar protest (primarily the CJP-led agitation over NEET and other exam paper leaks, irregularities, and demands for accountability including the Education Minister’s resignation) used abusive and foul language for a mix of generational, technological, psychological, and situational reasons. This harmed the optics of an otherwise legitimate grievance even as other Gen Z participants actively pushed back against it.

 

The protest drew large numbers of students and young people (often described as a “Gen Z revolution”), with creative placards, memes, satire, and genuine anger over repeated systemic failures that affect futures and trust in institutions. Police action on key days (including the July 20 march attempts) escalated tensions, injuries occurred on both sides, and the site saw both disciplined volunteering (cleanliness drives, medical help, human chains) and disruption (abusive slogans, hooliganism, near-lynching of a media person in one reported incident). Organizers and many participants themselves publicly urged against vulgarity, noting it undercut the cause.

 

Anger and adolescents

Conflict resolution skills are imbibed in childhood. It is not uncommon for adolescents to revolt against parents, who appear to them as species from alien planet. A gradual drip of acrimony turns into a bitter and unforgiving swamp causing a fossilization, or worse, death of their relationship. An ever changing world appeals to adolescents whereas parents often hold on to their experiences, beliefs and patterns. Revolting adolescents never react to just the moment, but to a 'story' they have told themselves several times about how low opinion their parents have of them! They dust an old ledger of unresolved arguments and grievances in their defense, using it to suppress guilt and rationalize.

 

When these children hit the streets for genuine grievances, instead of coherently speaking their mind they end up angry, giving emotional and volatile arguments, often ending in filthy abuses and violence. They feel that their parents, the government, the Judiciary, the police, the media all are conspiring against them. Little do they understand that violence, whether physical or verbal, is counterproductive to their cause?

 

The emotionally disgruntled and verbally irresponsible youngsters who yell back at a version of parents at home, who actually do not exist, are the ones who were hurling abuses at the authorities and indulging in violence in the streets. While parents can be all forgiving, it is good to see the government too trying to be the same. But physical and verbal violence and loss of public property and life can not go unpublished. 

Why the foul language?

Several overlapping factors explain it:

Social media and cultural normalization: Gen Z language is heavily shaped by Instagram, reels, memes, group chats, and stand-up comedy, where expletives, shock value, and irreverence are routine for engagement and “authenticity.” The boundary between private/peer speech and public speech has eroded. What once stayed in closed circles spills into streets. Virality rewards the extreme; a shocking slogan or misogynistic taunt travels farther than measured critique.

 

Anger + crowd psychology: Deep frustration over paper leaks, perceived unaccountable institutions, limited opportunities, and (for some) heavy-handed policing produced raw expression. In large crowds, individual restraint weakens. This is classic crowd dynamics. A section becomes impatient and theatrical; others try to hold the line. Some anti-social elements can amplify this.

 

Generational style of dissent: Earlier Indian protest cultures often prized moral high ground, restraint, and formal slogans (Gandhian or JP-style discipline). This cohort prioritizes immediacy, satire, ridicule, and refusal of deference. Humour and memes (“Kuchupuchu resign kar do” style baby-talk mockery, Hinglish one-liners) are effective tools, but they easily slide into personal abuse and patriarchal ‘gaalis’ that target women of the opponent’s family—ironically recycling the very language many claim to reject. Young women using such terms was particularly noted and debated as either subversive reclamation or a failure to invent better vocabulary.

 

Lack of understanding of the context: Many of those hurling abuses at the Prime Minister and CJI had no clue about what they were angry about. They could not coherently rattle down their grievances. Lack of substantive understanding was compensated by string of abuses. If the Gen-z thinks that this makes them look cool, they have to think again. It makes them look hollow. They at once lose the sympathy of the masses.

 

Performance and identity: For some it signals group belonging, toughness, or fearlessness online-to-offline. The same digital habits that enable rapid mobilization also import online toxicity and “mind virus” escalation once the first cheers for an expletive land.

 

Not every young protester did this—many explicitly rejected it and focused on constructive work—but the visible minority dominated coverage and damaged broader sympathy.

 

How to address it in future

Abusive language is not inevitable, nor is it effective long-term. Successful movements (JP movement, earlier student agitations, Gandhi’s campaigns) understood that moral legitimacy and discipline protect the cause from being dismissed as mere hooliganism. There are a few practical steps that can be taken:

 

Internal norms and leadership organizers: Protest leadership must set and enforce clear codes early—volunteer stewards, stage announcements against personal abuse, and rapid distancing from violence or pure invective. Self-policing by participants (as some did at Jantar Mantar) is more powerful than external lectures. Channel energy into the creative strengths already on display: satire, art, memes, documentation, mutual aid.

 

Civic and media literacy: Schools, colleges, and civil society can teach the difference between private venting and public persuasion, the history of effective non-violent discipline, and how optics shape outcomes. Young people already innovate linguistically; the goal is expanding the repertoire of sharp, witty, non-degrading dissent rather than moralizing away anger.

 

Root causes matter: Persistent unaddressed grievances (exam integrity, employment, institutional trust) keep the pressure cooker hot. Dialogue, visible reforms, and lower reliance on force reduce the fuel for explosive expression. Governments and institutions that treat youth concerns as legitimate lower the temperature.

 

Broader culture: Parents, educators, and media model the public language they want to see. Algorithmic amplification of extremes is a structural problem; rewarding substance over pure shock helps. Stand-up and online culture will continue normalizing coarse speech, but public political spaces can still maintain higher standards without sanitizing dissent.

 

Conflict resolution within a family

It all starts within the family, and conflict resolution between siblings and with other family members sets the tone for future. Parents can do a lot towards this end:

 

1. Defining rules and boundaries for arguments

Arguments are an inseparable part of relationships, regardless of whether they are between spouses, parents and children, or even siblings, so it is important for everyone to know what is expected of them during an argument. These rules and advice are valid for almost any argument or dispute ranging from fights over toys, through problems of adolescence to the relationship between child and parent and even between parent and parent. The basic rules for debate are:

(a)  Do not insult - you can disagree or be angry without using words or behavior that hurt.

(b) Respect each other - after all, we are a family, one that loves all its members. 

(c)  Stay calm - communicate with each other in a calm, slow, honest and clear manner.

(d)  Listen without interrupting - listen to each other without planning your response while listening.

 

2. Encouraging creativity

Once both sides in the argument know what they want and are fighting for it, then any conflict can turn into one big misunderstanding with each side "stuck" in their position. However, what if both sides will ultimately agree on the same things but chose to fight the whole way to a solution? As parents, you must encourage creative or unique ways to bridge the gap and reach a solution. Encourage fairness and full transparency, but teach them to recognize that the solution might not be for the benefit of all parties. 

 

3. Compromise and inclusion

Not everyone gets what they want when they want, but families can work on it so that everyone is satisfied; Not perfectly, but in a way that’s acceptable to all. Try to see the situation from the perspective of someone else in the family so you can at least try to figure out what it is that they’re feeling. When it comes to quarrels between siblings, this responsibility will be on the older one, and it is highly commendable for them if they fill it. In addition, teach your children to show empathy for others, and it will serve them faithfully in the future as well. Children who are exposed to compromise-based actions often become ambassadors of peace in their social circles, and in the future in the professions of their choosing.

 

4. Being mindful of the time and place

During an argument, it is important to remember the beautiful saying that if you have nothing nice to say, doesn’t say anything at all. In addition, there may be moments when one side of the conflict is very angry and cannot speak logically. In such a case, a break is necessary - step aside and agree to disagree, or to talk about it later. We all know someone or remember a situation in which one of the sides in the argument continued to escalate the situation and everything got out of control. To prevent this, we as parents should convey the message that it is okay to postpone arguments, the sun will rise tomorrow morning and all involved will continue to be members of the same family. Perhaps the debate will be no more important or than tomorrow, but it is better than exacerbating the current situation.

 

5. Expressing oneself clearly

In resolving conflicts, it is important that we not only listen to the person in front of us and try to understand their position, but also that we know how to express clearly what we feel. Therefore, you must learn to clearly share what you’re experiencing within you because people can’t give you what you want if you do not tell them clearly what it is. Small children usually have difficulty with this process, but if you help them do so, the situation will improve to the point where your help will no longer be needed.

 

6. Seek a solution to a problem that both sides will benefit from

In order to be able to meet this principle, I recommend that at the stage of finding solutions, you be careful about two rules:

(i)                Try to find a solution that both sides are satisfied with

(ii)              Propose as many solutions and alternatives as possible, so that there isn’t just one solution on the table.

The purpose of this tool is for each side to understand and agree on the solution and leave with the feeling that there is a way forward. So, keep in mind the following three points:

(a)  Both sides need to understand beyond a shadow of a doubt what the agreed solution is.

(b) Both sides must commit themselves to fulfill their promises in favor of the solution.

(c)  Both sides need to think of ways to prevent this conflict, or others like it, from recurring in the future.

 

7. Open and sincere communication is always the solution

Open and honest communication is no longer a hollow cliché, it is the way to solve conflicts, at both high and low levels. It is enough to look at the news and see how conflict resolution between countries is very similar to children learning to play together. Like countries, small children say everything they think, want and feel without filters, and often they do not understand the other side. On the other hand, most of us understand that we will not always get what we want, and we must also know how to lose and give in from time to time. The question is only, what do we do with this knowledge? Will we cry and complain every time we have to face a loss or compromise? The likelihood of this is not high. Therefore, even within the family unit, it is important to remember and remind ourselves that only through creative thinking, interpersonal communication, and an honest and positive approach can we reach a solution to conflicts.

 

If we choose to conceal information and not share our feelings, thoughts, and desires in a transparent and honest way, we will never reach an agreement on both the personal and family level. At no stage I am suggesting that those protesters who were incoherent, who lacked substance, and who were abusive, vulgar and angry, instead of calm, cool, collected and coherent did not have healthy parenting, but, did their parents feel proud of their gutter language the uttered on the streets? I don't think so. 

Genuine anger over real failures deserves hearing. Turning that anger into disciplined, creative, non-degrading pressure is both more strategic and more consistent with the better instincts many young participants already showed. Future movements will be stronger if they treat civility and focus as strategic assets rather than optional extras.