If you knew that your life will end tomorrow, then are you satisfied with the way you lived? Have you done everything you wanted to do? Have you achiever all that you set out for? Have you checked most of the boxes of your /to do’ list? If not, then you are left with a bag of regrets! The commonest regrets – wasted time, missed opportunities, unaccomplished goals, words left unsaid, choosing work over family, not being true to oneself, getting involved with the wrong people and ignoring personal health and happiness are there with almost every person to a lesser or greater extent. You have always known them, but now that I am bringing them to your notice, why not have a plan to avoid them?
Regrets can hurt our
mental and physical health if we don't accept them. Reflecting on regrets helps
us learn from mistakes and become a better person. The biggest regrets often
come from not taking action in life. The phrase “if only…” is
normally one associated with deep regret, and that’s why it’s incredibly sad
when we feel compelled to say it. To avoid having to utter those fateful words,
I’ve made a conschious effort and chalked out a plan.
1. Always
being yourself, and not what others expect you to be.
It’s a big mistake to always think about other
people’s perceptions of you and trying to play up to them, as opposed to just
being yourself. If you continuously focus on this, rather than being who you
really are, the end result will be that one fine day, you will forget who you
are beneath the mask you always try to uphold. Forget about who people want you
to be, or how they see you – impress them and inspire them with how you deal
with your imperfections instead.
2. Never letting
others create your dreams
Although the greatest life
challenge is the sound discovery of who you really are, the second greatest is
finding happiness and peace with yourself. You should always stay true to your
own goals and dreams to find happiness and peace. If people disagree with you,
it isn’t necessarily a bad thing – it just means you’re standing your own
ground and finding your own way. Don’t worry about whether people think you’re
doing something crazy. When you find yourself excitedly losing track of time,
you’ll know in your heart that you’re on the right path.
3. Avoiding
the company of negative people
Negative people are best
avoided, because they can foist their bad attitudes on you, and even get to
you. Remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, not an
obligation. Once you realize this and begin to keep it in mind, you will open
up your world to compassion over anger, generosity over greed, and patience
over anxiety. Negative people will sap your energy by their negativism, while a
positive circle of genius around you will boost you, improve your performance
and bring enjoyment and fulfillment.
4. Never falling
into selfishness and egotism
A life that revolves around
selfish pursuits and egotism is not a life well-lived. You will be remembered
by what you have done for others and the world at large, rather than what you
have done for yourself. Be selfless, compassionate and try and give back
whenever and wherever you can. Our profession gives us an unique opportunity to
spread happiness. If we can bring a smile in one face every day, we are
touching 365 lives positively every year! And if this becomes our life’s
mission, there can never be room for regrets.
5. Never
fighting change and growth
Change, death and taxes are
the only three constant things in life you cannot change. So, don’t fight them
as you will surely lose. If you want to know why your life is the way it is,
take a look at your past. If you want to know how your future’s going to be,
take a look at your actions in the present. You should always leave room in
your life for the old to make way for the new. As much as we all like to hold
on to that which we know, the truth is that the old is gone, and isn’t coming
back. Accepting this fundamental reality and embracing change as it comes will
set you up for lasting success.
6. Never
giving up during tough times
Whenever we fail in life, we
should take it as a blessing. This is because failures act as indicators
that we need to try something else. Failure is nothing more than a stepping
stone towards success. What failures do not indicate is the necessity to give
up on what we’re setting out to achieve. Learn what you can from a failure and
move on. One baby step at a time is what will get you ahead in life.
Eventually, these baby steps build on top of each other and lead to our most
glorious and defining moments.
7. Never
trying to micro-manage everything in life
There’s plenty of truth to
the notion of creating your own destiny, however this doesn’t mean that you
incessantly have to worry about and control everything. Letting go a little
will allow you to gain perspective. Once you can see the forest for the trees
again, it’s time to take the next step forward. Remember that you don’t always
have to be certain that you’re headed somewhere great. Occurrences in life
happen in perfect order, regardless of whether you understand that or not. As
time goes by in our lives, we all come to understand this principle and see how
all the dots are connected. I am not at all suggesting that do not plan in
life, those who fail to plan actually plan to fail. What I am suggesting is don’t
go into finer details and nitty gritties – they take your time, cause anxiety
and in an ever changing world, may eventually turn out to be totally
unnecessary.
8. Never
settling for less than what you deserve
You should always make it a
priority in life to let go of what no longer serves you. Sometimes we need to
be floored by a bad relationship or other situation, as hitting rock bottom can
actually be the springboard we need for us to stand taller than we ever did
before. The tears we cry can sometimes clear our eyes so we can see the
possibilities that lie in front of us. Remember not to settle for anything less
than you deserve.
9. Just doing
it! Not endlessly procrastinating
We all know life is short,
but it’s actually even shorter than you think. If you’re forever waiting for
tomorrow, the window for you to do all the things you’ve always wanted to do
will silently close, and by the time you realize it has, it will be too late.
The choice is yours – do you want to look back on what you’ve achieved with
pride, or do you want to make a whole myriad of excuses for the things you
haven’t?
10. Being assertive
and no just waiting for things to happen
For whatever reason, you may
feel hard done by due to the hand of cards that life has dealt you, but that
doesn’t mean that you are owed anything – by anyone. Focus on developing a
backbone, rather than a wishbone. It’s up to you to take responsibility for
what transpires in your life. You are equally important to and just as needed
as everyone else in this world. Don’t sit around waiting for things to happen,
because they just won’t. Your day is now, it’s here. Seize it and go and create
the world you want for yourself.
Life is fragile and unpredictable, and can change petty quickly. To avoid
looking back, and wishing that you had done things differently, you need a
plan. This blog is that plan.
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